Self-worth is an inner state of being which comes from self-understanding, affection, and self-acceptance. This timeless and unchanging state of mind measures how you value and consider yourself, regardless of what others might think or do.
What is Self-Worth?
Self-worth is the subjective assessment of one's self. Self-esteem is used to define the overall subjective sense of self-accomplishment or value of an individual. It includes a range of beliefs about yourself, such as assessing your looks, ideologies, feelings, and actions. Self-worth is an inner state of being which comes from self-understanding, affection, and self-acceptance. This timeless and unchanging state of mind measures how you value and consider yourself, regardless of what others might think or do.
Two people can believe in the same thing, but their preferences may vary because of their different values. We judge others according to what we believe in. What you value in yourself is what you start to value in others. For example, if we value looks and appearance above all other traits then we start giving respect to people according to how they look.
The downside of it is that you only judge others based on their appearance, you start judging yourself. Your self-esteem is then linked to your value or belief system fluctuates according to your physical appearance at any given moment. You will never achieve stable self-worth unless you work on your belief system.
Who Programs/Determines our Self-Worth?
Self-worth is measured mainly by our self-evaluated skills and our success in one or more tasks we consider beneficial. Our self-worth determines the kind of life we live, our relationship and choices.
The measurements we use towards ourselves normally come from our caretakers and the people that are close to us. For example as a child, we wanted to make our parents happy so we start picking behaviours and actions that they appreciate. At school, we wanted our friends to love us and we wanted our teachers to appreciate us, so we did everything to make that happen. We measure our worth based on how much appreciation we receive from people that we love and/or need the most.
The only problem with that is we can get stuck in living our lives according to what makes others happy. While ideally, our self-worth should not be dependent on other people, our job, our achievements and many other external things we can not control. This is why it is important to reprogram our self-worth if we are aiming for a more fulfilling life filled with true happiness.
Why do We Need to Reprogram our Self-worth?
As mentioned previously, reprogramming self-worth is essential if we want to live a fulfilling and happy life. Instead of seeking stuff that momentarily boosts your self-esteem, evaluates your self-worth by how you are at your heart. Self-worth and self-belief help you stabilize your relationship and improve your mental health. It guides you to make a better decision in your life. Once you find your true self-worth inside yourself, you can reason out your decision and make the best possible choice. You know that your life will still matter, no matter how life turns out to be.
How to Reprogram our Self-Worth?
Use Positive Affirmation
Affirmations are used to help you overcome and challenge self-sabotage and negative thinking. You will continue to make meaningful improvements when you repeat them regularly, and trust in them. Positive claims are very powerful because negativity, fear, worry, and anxiety release you. When these statements are repeated over and over again, they begin to take charge of your thoughts, changing your thinking pattern slowly and changing your life eventually.
Be Good to Your Self
Be nice to yourself. Don’t judge yourself too harshly. Try to see the positivity in yourself as you see them in others. Don’t give too much attention to your flaws, try to work on them on a personal level. There is nothing in this world that can’t be fixed. Remind yourself that it is okay to not have a million followers on Instagram, or a huge bank balance, what matters is your inner peace and self-satisfaction. It is as important to exercise compassion towards yourself, almost as important as it is to be kind to others.
Accepting yourself helps you grow as a self-satisfied person. Being kind to yourself encourages satisfaction and loyalty, and how you handle yourself sets the tone for how you will be viewed by others. You will feel better emotionally and physically because you are kind to yourself. You will be more likely to succeed in everything things you do, and you will be more able to look after others better.
It is important for a person to experience self-love and acceptance if he/she wants to succeed in life. With low self-esteem, we tend to get bitter towards other people. Try to learn how to accept compliments when given. Self-worth is achieved when you are ready to accept your flaws and work on them to improve your lifestyle.
It is okay to be a little critical about oneself, but over criticism can crush your soul. You won’t be able to perform to your maximum potential. You will always self-doubt before doing something new or experience a new relationship.
Know your Real Worth
Understand that you will only work at your best if you are internally satisfied. All your outer world problems will fade away if you learn to accept and work on your flaws. You will achieve inner peace and self-love. Know that you are worthy of this world and your worth isn’t defined by money, looks, your achievements and many other external things. Be kind and patient to yourself and others.
Work on the Roots
Set time aside everyday to work on your core beliefs. Every time you spot certain beliefs that you think don't serve the life that you want, ask yourself, where is it coming from. Are these beliefs about myself true? When and from who did I inherit these beliefs towards myself?
The bottom line is that nobody’s perfect. To achieve inner peace and self-worth you have to be accepting towards your and other people's flaws. You have to be kind and loving towards others and to yourself as well. It will require time and effort to maintain this healthy lifestyle, but with little time it will benefit you mentally and physically.